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Debbi's avatar

Thank you. Normal just means normative which just means the most frequent form of something. Frequent does not imply a +|- value though people insist on applying one - every way of being exists on a bell curve. Personally I don’t want to exist on the top of the curve. It’s boring to be like the norm❤️⭕️❌. ( I like to reduce us to math - I know it’s weird, just like me, thank goddess!)

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Alice Wild's avatar

Debbi, I absolutely love the way you put this—especially the reminder that “normal” is just a frequency, not a value judgment. That nuance gets lost so often, and your comment brings it back with such clarity (I absolutely love the way you use math as a metaphor). Honestly, I agree—who wants to be at the top of the bell curve anyway? Give me the edges where all the color and texture of life live. Thank you for sharing your brilliance here—please never stop being wonderfully, and uniquely you.

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Debbi's avatar

Thank you for calling me brilliant! Something that’s also at the edges of the bell.

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Alice Wild's avatar

Yes—so true. And so appreciated :)

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Sarah Gillian Bower's avatar

Myron, your child is in hell

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Sarah Gillian Bower's avatar

Correction, I’m using auto dictation. I mean to say my inner child is in hell.

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Stephanie Marie's avatar

I love this reframe of a low energy day versus a bad day. That’s really helpful, Alice.

Thank you for showing up in real time to share your walk so honestly and vulnerably with us. It makes me feel less alone and reminds me that it’s ok not to be ok sometimes. Sending you love, and praying that today feels lighter for you…for all of us. 🙏 ❤️

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Alice Wild's avatar

Stephanie, your words always land with such care—and truly, they mean so much. Thank you for being here, for holding space with me on the low-energy days too.

I’m so glad that reframe resonated with you. It’s easy to slip into judgment when we feel off, but I’m learning (slowly) that softness is often the more helpful choice—if I can find my center and access that self compassionate and do so with the utmost care.

Thank you for your prayers and love—sending both right back to you. May today feel a little lighter for all of us. ❤️

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Stephanie Marie's avatar

That means a lot to me, too, Alice! My favorite part of Substack is the little exchanges between like-minded souls like yourself. Thank you for filling my cup with your tender heart and wisdom. ❤️

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